Toward Dismantling Family Privilege and White Supremacy in Family Science

Family Science has long studied non-traditional families. The discipline still struggles with family inequality, though, in how it privileges certain types of families over others. Like White privilege, family privilege is an unacknowledged and unearned benefit instantiated in U.S. laws, policies, and practices and bestowed upon traditional or “standard” nuclear families to the disadvantage of non-traditional configured family systems (e.g., sole-parent families, unmarried committed partners rearing children together, grandparents raising grandchildren). Family privilege is defined as the benefits, often invisible and unacknowledged, that one receives by belonging to family systems long upheld in society as superior to all others. It serves to advantage certain family forms over others and is typically bestowed upon White, traditional nuclear families.

Most people are right-handed. Therefore, there is a such thing as “right-handed privilege.” Some people are left-handed. There are two ways you deal with that – one, you just work extra hard teaching the left-handed kids to write with their right hand. Or, you develop a parallel minority track for lefties. It’s kind of weird, they curl their hand around more so they can start the same place the right handers do, and follow the same line as they draw the letters and numbers.

You could have the lefties write in essentially a mirror script. But now you have to train the kids to read forward script and mirror script. You are making it harder on the right-handers, and for the lefties, you’re making it easier for them to write, but now they have to learn two ways to read, thus you probably aren’t gaining anything.

There exists matriarchal societies. There exists matrilocal societies. There exists societies where the males assist in raising their sister’s children as opposed to their own children. There is still a genetic connection between the men and the children they defend, feed, and help raise.

But patriarchies are certainly the only societies that developed into civilizations. I was surprised when reading the Communist-Freudian Wilhelm Reich’s Sex Pol to find so much discussion of these family relationships and their relationship to property, but in hindsight, of course. There is a reason why Communism wanted to do away with inheritance, and to do that, you’d have to do away with patriarchy.

The easiest way to do away with patriarchy is to “abolish family privilege” or redefine the concept of “family” so you don’t “privilege certain types of families over others.”

It is interesting how post-Sexual Revolution sexuality is discussed.

In theory, what you want for patriarchy is to have young couples get married, have sex, and make a family. There are variations on that, but as Westerners and mostly West of the Hanjal line types, we know what the basic model is. Mature young people, early 20’s, the man typically a few years older than the woman.

There is really only one kind of sex that makes a baby.

But our Leftists really have a problem with “privileging” that one type of sex. Because what if you like a different kind of sex?

Well – so what? The point is to create families. That means penis-in-vagina. Anything else is either foreplay or masturbation.

So, the point of family values is not to stop you from jerking off. Or even butt-humping. Or whatever. Have at it.

The point is to create the environment and the incentives for our young, fertile women to get married and start a family.

As usual, males are somewhat disposable, especially on the low end. Some females, for whatever reason, just can’t or won’t. So they are disposable too.

Some people aren’t going to be able, for whatever reason, to start a nuclear family. So, they can help out in their own way, as a support member of the team.

But our sexual ethic is not about you. If you want to be a wanker, go right ahead. No one is going to miss you. But you aren’t part of the future we are building.

If you are a lefty, and it is harder for you to do it the normal way, there may be a parallel track. But if you can’t do penis-in-vagina at all, you don’t matter. The future belongs to those who show up.

Post-Sexual Revolution, the anti-natalists complain about restrictions on sexuality.

But that is the wrong way to look at it. The point is to create the conditions for monogamous families. Like Chesterton’s Fence, if you don’t understand why the restrictions are there – if you don’t know why the fence was put there in the first place – you should not be allowed to remove it.

But you can always jump over the fence and hope you don’t fall into the swamp, or get eaten by the bear, or die in the mudslide, or whatever dangers the fence was put there to warn people away from in the first place.

But the fence is there for a reason, and most people – hopefully, if you want your society to exist in the future – are going to follow the road and not jump the fence.

So, let’s stop allowing the Left to complain about this. It is not a matter of “forbidding” you your favorite kind of masturbation. In reality, pre-Sexual Revolution, the only people who were really “oppressed” were unmarried pregnant women.

It is sort of like the old saying, lead, follow, or get out of the way. We want leaders. If you can’t lead, you can always follow the leader. And if you just can’t do it – if you cannot couple up and engage in penis-in-vagina sex and make babies, well – just get out of the way. The future will arrive without you.

But if you do the George Carlin thing, and obstruct, you’re just being an asshole.